How to Use OkCupid

By Kay FleuryUpdated on March 16, 2022

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By now you’ll have signed up for an OkCupid account and are ready to start finding your matches and learning how to use OkCupid. In this article, we’ll show you how to log in and out of OkCupid, its main six functions, and what makes OkCupid different from other online dating sites and apps.

Logging in and out of OkCupid

1. Go to in your web browser and click Sign In in the top-right corner.

Sign in to OkCupid

2. Click in the first highlighted box and type in your email address or username. Then, click the box below and enter your OkCupid password. Then click Let’s go. You can also choose to sign in with Facebook.​

Enter username and password to sign in to OkCupid

If you signed up with your Facebook or Google account, you can instead click Log In with Facebook or Log in With Google and follow the instructions to log in with the respective account.

3. You are now logged in, and viewing the OkCupid home page. To log out, click the icon of your profile picture in the top right corner, and select Sign Out from the drop down menu.​

Sign out from OkCupid

You are now signed out of OkCupid.

3 steps to get the most out of your OkCupid profile and settings

Because signing up for OkCupid is so fast and simple, it is important to remember that after creating an OkCupid account, there is plenty more information you can add to your profile to increase the likelihood that someone will “Like” you, and to increase the compatibility of your matches. Below are three steps you can take to get the most out of your OkCupid profile:

1. Accessing and updating your profile

If you ever feel like sprucing up your profile or adding more information about yourself, click on the icon of your profile picture in the top right corner of the OkCupid screen. This icon always stays in place no matter where you navigate on OkCupid, so it is always easy to find! You can use this drop down menu to update your profile, change your settings, look at users you have bookmarked, find a user, ask OkCupid for help, or to sign out.

Click profile picture icon to access and update your OkCupid profile

To update your profile, click on your profile picture icon to bring up the drop down menu and select Profile.

Click the profile button to view or update your OkCupid profile

From here, you will see aspects of your profile as they appear to other users. To easily edit any aspect of your profile, click the green pencil icon beside any section of your profile.

Edit aspects of your OkCupid profile by clicking the green pencil icon

Then fill in that section with whatever you think best describes that aspect of yourself, and click Save.

Type new information into your profile and click the save button

You can also add photos to your profile at any time by selecting Photos at the top of your profile page.

How to add photos to your OkCupid profile

Add photos by clicking the box (album) in the center titled “More photos.” On the next screen, select Add photos, and choose photos on your PC or from your Facebook photos. You can also click the box on the right to connect your OkCupid profile to your Instagram.

Upload photos to your OkCupid profile

2. Answering Questions

One of the best functions of OkCupid is the questions it asks its users. Unlike other dating sites, you do not have to fill out a long series of questions to create a profile. However, OkCupid does try to match you with the most compatible users possible, and they do this by allowing you to answer as many questions you like, at your own pace.

There are a couple of ways you can answer questions on OkCupid, and the first is to do so while updating your profile. After selecting Profile from your profile picture icon drop down menu, select Questions at the top of your page.

Access your questions by clicking the Questions tab on your profile

From here, you can see the questions you have answered, and filter through them. You can also click Answer to answer a new question. You always have the option to select Skip question and decline to provide an answer. This will simply move you on to the next question.

How to add an answers to your OkCupid profile

Another way to answer questions is while viewing other users’ profiles. In order to see how they have answered a question, you must have answered the same question as well. If you haven’t, OkCupid gives you the option of answering it immediately to reveal how the other user has answered.

To do this, simply begin browsing the profiles of other users. When you find someone you like, click on their profile. Scroll down to “The two of us” to see your match percentages based on each category of question OkCupid offers. From here, you can click on any category to see those questions specifically, or you can select See questions to see an assortment.

See how your answers to questions compare to other users' answers

You can then see their answers, and click Answer to answer any question you have not already answered to reveal their answer.

Answer questions on someone else's profile to reveal their answers

There are a few other times OkCupid will offer to let you answer questions, and you should do this as often as possible to increase the likelihood that you will be well-matched with the users you meet!

3. Updating your settings

Updating your settings is something you should consider doing as soon as you create an OkCupid account. Whether it’s getting rid of constant notifications or your privacy you’re worried about, this should be the first thing you do.

From your profile picture icon drop down menu, select Settings.

Choose settings from your profile picture icon to update them

From here, you can select from any of the four options on the left side to change My Account, Notifications & Apps, Privacy, or Subscriptions. You can change any aspect of your settings as often as you want to fit your needs.

Update your account, notification, privacy, or subscription settings

It is recommended that you view and change your privacy settings, as the OkCupid default may not be in line with your personal comfort level. For more tips on how to stay safe while using OkCupid, visit our tutorial here.

How to meet and connect with people on OkCupid

There are six major functions and features of OkCupid for meeting and communicating with matches. We’ll explain each of them below.

The Home Page

When you sign into OkCupid, you are instantly transported to the home page, which functions as a kind of “news feed” for all of the OkCupid users you can match with. Similar to Facebook, OkCupid will update you whenever a potential match changes their profile picture, publicly answers a new question, or edits their profile. It will also give you the opportunity to quickly answer a new question, and see all of the profiles you have recently visited. The home page keeps you up-to-date on what’s new on OkCupid.

At the top of the home page, you can also see 5 profile pictures of possible matches that OkCupid is featuring for you. To cycle through these matches, you can choose from the categories (New, Online, Featured, Nearby, or Random) below the photos, or click the arrow on the side of the right-most photo.

Browse Matches

Browse Matches is the main screen you would use in OkCupid to find your potential romantic partners. From any screen, select Browse Matches at the top left of your menu bar.

Browse matches to find matches in your area

From this screen, browse matches freely, and sort by Match %, Distance, Who’s new, Last online, Enemy %, or OkCupid’s “Special Blend.” You can also select the Filter symbol in the top right corner to input more specifiics about what you’re looking for. Click Clear all to remove the filters and start your search over.

Filter your matches and sort them based on criteria you are looking for in that moment

With the Browse Matches option, you can instantly see a username, photo, age, location, Match %, Enemy %, and whether your potential match is currently online. Simply scroll over their profile icon and click the star to like them, or click on them to view their profile in more detail.

Quick Match

OkCupid’s Quick Match function is something you would want to use if you can make a quick decision about whether you’re interested in someone or not. It allows you to see some basic information from another user’s profile, and you must instantly decide to “like” them or “pass.” To get started, select Quick Match from the top left corner of your menu bar from any page on OkCupid.

Use Quick Match to quickly find and like users or pass over them

Next, you will be presented one user at a time, and you must either “like” them by clicking the yellow star, or “pass” on them by clicking the X next to it. You can also press 1 on your keyboard to pass quickly, or 2 to like. You may also select a “Flavor” to narrow the Quick Match down to a certain type by clicking on Choose a flavor in the top right corner. This will filter your matches by groups such as “Beard Lovers,” “World Travelers,” or “Hardcore Cuddlers.” There is also an Undo button to the left of the cycle of matches, in case you passed on someone too hastily.

Like users or pass over them instantly, or choose a flavour depending on what you feel like looking for that day


With OkCupid messaging, you can instantly connect with any OkCupid user. You can send a message to any user by selecting Message at the top right of their profile.

Send a message to another OkCupid user

If you message a user from their profile, all you need to do is click Message, type your message, and click Send.

Compose and send a message to an OkCupid user

You can access your messages at any time by clicking the Message icon at the top right of your screen, next to your profile picture icon. From here you can select any user who has messaged you, or that you have messaged by clicking on them, and continue your conversation. If you want to remove messages, move your cursor to the right side of the message box until a trash can appears, and click to Delete.

Look through your OkCupid messages and delete them


This menu shows people who have “liked” you by clicking on a yellow star while using any of the OkCupid functions such as Quick Match, Browse Matches, or simply by having viewed your profile. Click on the star in the top right of your menu to see who has seen your profile and liked it. Remember, you can only see who has liked your profile while you’re online, or if you upgrade to the A-List.

See who has liked your OkCupid profile


The “Visitors” function shows you other matches who have visited your profile, meaning they may be interested in you! To view your visitors, select the Visitors icon at the top right of your menu near your profile picture icon. By default, you will see who has been visiting you.

To see who you have recently visited, select You Visited near the top of your screen. To hide any Visitors you no longer want to see, scroll over their name or profile icon and select Hide. This page will also show you your average number of visitors per week, and will allow you to easily change your settings regarding visitors. Remember, without the A-List, you can only see the last 5 users to visit your profile.

See who has visited your OkCupid profile

This was a quick guide to using OkCupid. Good luck finding romance!